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I want to jump and scream and cry out of sheer frustration and at the same time I want to jump, scream and cry out of sheer joy!
This morning was a tough one. Today’s rant is getting a little personal.
Without getting into to much detail out of respect for the involved parties. Lately, I find myself dealing with a terrible situation that is beyond distressing and causing us to re-evaluate our current living situation, which in turn, is causing me a great deal of stress because I love the home that we live in and I love a certain person who is like a mother to me. She and I both have been put in a very difficult situation by one very bad apple, who will remain unnamed, and for the time being, we are both forced to deal with.
I will never understand what causes people to be so angry and cruel to a complete stranger for what seems like no reason at all. To be rude and disrespectful, to lie, cheat and steal. I really do not understand it. We are good people who work hard and have pride in both our home and our selves. We go out of our way to be kind, honest and helpful towards everyone. We are friendly with all our neighbors and no one has anything bad to say about us or our children or our dogs. All but one.
There is a darkness nearby that is so full of anger and hatred and it’s exhausting always having to battle with someone has no respect, no honor and who will lie without batting an eye. All for what? In all honesty, I have no clue! We have never done anyone wrong here – yet lies are being spread to important parties and vile words (that are also complete lies) are being screamed out so loudly that I can hear them IN MY HOUSE from the outside. I don’t harass people as I firmly believe in treating people the way you want to be treated. I am kind and compassionate and I try to be understanding. But then I hear that someone is “tired of being harassed by (us) goofs!” – LOL! I’m sorry what? I don’t recall harassing anyone, however, I do recall being yelled at and then ignorantly and disrespectfully dismissed by said bad apple. This is a very big problem. My stomach has been in knots for the past few days. This dream home I love so much is turning into a real-life nightmare. The bad apple needs to be removed from the bucket and I am powerless to do so. This one bad apple is ruining it for everyone and it is so utterly depressing.
But then at the same time, there are days like today when at all stress and bullshit is suddenly melted away because someone does something so kind and so unexpected for you that it makes my personal nightmare a little more bearable. I have an amazing client who has dealt with struggles that, honestly… I can’t even begin to imagine the horror. She has been through hell and back and yet, she is still kind and caring. We’ve laughed together, we’ve cried together and we’ve had some really good times together. This evening I came home to a wonderful surprise waiting for me on my doorstep. A gorgeous Willow Tree figurine of a man and a woman wrapped in a beautiful embrace. I wanted to cry when I saw it. My hubby and I got married in October on this beautiful property. We did so because we believed that we would be living here for years to come, now only 2 short months later and we are forced to re-think our long term plan. This was not how we intended on starting our lives together. But the beautiful gesture from my amazing and beautiful client is so very heartwarming and I feel so blessed to have such wonderful clients like her. It’s nice to know that not only my hard work is appreciated, but that I am appreciated as well, as a person. Sometimes we are so involved in the end result that we lose sight of the people who do the work and it feels so very nice to be appreciated, especially when times are rough.
In a previous post I was mentioning that I needed a job to hold me over for the winter, that I wanted a job that would teach me a new skill or help me to improve one I’ve already got. Well, I got something even better! I started working for Habitat for Humanity here locally and I have to say – this is the second “job” (working for someone else) I’ve ever had where I actually look forward to going to work. The first being that first landscaping job in 2012 that got me to fall in love with the land again. I love this job not only because it gets me away from this personal hell I have to deal with at home but because the people there are just so incredible! The staff are stupidly amazing, like there are no words for how awesome they all are. No sugarcoating, they are phenomenal people. The volunteers are just… wow! I’m left speechless by these amazing souls who give so much of their time and ask for nothing in return. My goal with this position is to learn how to build a house (yes, I have my own agenda and I do not hide it) but in the four short weeks I have been there, I have learned so much more. I thought I knew about certain things like respect and kindness. As it turns out, I was wrong, there was so much more I didn’t know and now I am learning all over again about respect, compassion and kindness. Our client base is (for the most part) really fantastic and I just adore a few of our regulars. But there is so much more to this organization than most people are aware of (myself included at first) and they do so much good in the community and I couldn’t be more proud than to be a part of such a fantastic team.
So at the end of the day, despite having to deal with some very troublesome people who are trying to make our lives a living hell. I stand tall and I laugh in the face of adversity because my spirits will not be dampened by such idiocrisy. I will not tolerate disrespect but at the same time, I will not be disrespectful either as I am bigger than that and I am better than that and I will not play their childish games. So even when times are dark, you have to look past it and remind yourself that while you may cross paths with some real assholes in life… Just stand firm in knowing who you are and that justice will prevail. I can remain positive and rest my head at night knowing I did the best I could while being the most respectful, compassionate and understanding version of myself. To remember and never lose sight that we must treat people the way we wish to be treated. You will never find the rainbow without a little rain first. I am surrounded by amazing people, clients, co-workers and even people of no relation who are like family to me. Staying positive and appreciating all the people in my life who have done right by me really helps to ease the stress of those who wish to bring us nothing but pain. #StayStrong #StayPositive
I want to jump and scream and cry out of sheer frustration and at the same time I want to jump, scream and cry out of sheer joy!
This morning was a tough one. Today’s rant is getting a little personal.
It's Laugh Or Cry
Without getting into to much detail out of respect for the involved parties. Lately, I find myself dealing with a terrible situation that is beyond distressing and causing us to re-evaluate our current living situation, which in turn, is causing me a great deal of stress because I love the home that we live in and I love a certain person who is like a mother to me. She and I both have been put in a very difficult situation by one very bad apple, who will remain unnamed, and for the time being, we are both forced to deal with.
I will never understand what causes people to be so angry and cruel to a complete stranger for what seems like no reason at all. To be rude and disrespectful, to lie, cheat and steal. I really do not understand it. We are good people who work hard and have pride in both our home and our selves. We go out of our way to be kind, honest and helpful towards everyone. We are friendly with all our neighbors and no one has anything bad to say about us or our children or our dogs. All but one.
There is a darkness nearby that is so full of anger and hatred and it’s exhausting always having to battle with someone has no respect, no honor and who will lie without batting an eye. All for what? In all honesty, I have no clue! We have never done anyone wrong here – yet lies are being spread to important parties and vile words (that are also complete lies) are being screamed out so loudly that I can hear them IN MY HOUSE from the outside. I don’t harass people as I firmly believe in treating people the way you want to be treated. I am kind and compassionate and I try to be understanding. But then I hear that someone is “tired of being harassed by (us) goofs!” – LOL! I’m sorry what? I don’t recall harassing anyone, however, I do recall being yelled at and then ignorantly and disrespectfully dismissed by said bad apple. This is a very big problem. My stomach has been in knots for the past few days. This dream home I love so much is turning into a real-life nightmare. The bad apple needs to be removed from the bucket and I am powerless to do so. This one bad apple is ruining it for everyone and it is so utterly depressing.
But then at the same time, there are days like today when at all stress and bullshit is suddenly melted away because someone does something so kind and so unexpected for you that it makes my personal nightmare a little more bearable. I have an amazing client who has dealt with struggles that, honestly… I can’t even begin to imagine the horror. She has been through hell and back and yet, she is still kind and caring. We’ve laughed together, we’ve cried together and we’ve had some really good times together. This evening I came home to a wonderful surprise waiting for me on my doorstep. A gorgeous Willow Tree figurine of a man and a woman wrapped in a beautiful embrace. I wanted to cry when I saw it. My hubby and I got married in October on this beautiful property. We did so because we believed that we would be living here for years to come, now only 2 short months later and we are forced to re-think our long term plan. This was not how we intended on starting our lives together. But the beautiful gesture from my amazing and beautiful client is so very heartwarming and I feel so blessed to have such wonderful clients like her. It’s nice to know that not only my hard work is appreciated, but that I am appreciated as well, as a person. Sometimes we are so involved in the end result that we lose sight of the people who do the work and it feels so very nice to be appreciated, especially when times are rough.
It Is To Laugh..or Crying
In a previous post I was mentioning that I needed a job to hold me over for the winter, that I wanted a job that would teach me a new skill or help me to improve one I’ve already got. Well, I got something even better! I started working for Habitat for Humanity here locally and I have to say – this is the second “job” (working for someone else) I’ve ever had where I actually look forward to going to work. The first being that first landscaping job in 2012 that got me to fall in love with the land again. I love this job not only because it gets me away from this personal hell I have to deal with at home but because the people there are just so incredible! The staff are stupidly amazing, like there are no words for how awesome they all are. No sugarcoating, they are phenomenal people. The volunteers are just… wow! I’m left speechless by these amazing souls who give so much of their time and ask for nothing in return. My goal with this position is to learn how to build a house (yes, I have my own agenda and I do not hide it) but in the four short weeks I have been there, I have learned so much more. I thought I knew about certain things like respect and kindness. As it turns out, I was wrong, there was so much more I didn’t know and now I am learning all over again about respect, compassion and kindness. Our client base is (for the most part) really fantastic and I just adore a few of our regulars. But there is so much more to this organization than most people are aware of (myself included at first) and they do so much good in the community and I couldn’t be more proud than to be a part of such a fantastic team.
It Is To Laugh..or Crypto
So at the end of the day, despite having to deal with some very troublesome people who are trying to make our lives a living hell. I stand tall and I laugh in the face of adversity because my spirits will not be dampened by such idiocrisy. I will not tolerate disrespect but at the same time, I will not be disrespectful either as I am bigger than that and I am better than that and I will not play their childish games. So even when times are dark, you have to look past it and remind yourself that while you may cross paths with some real assholes in life… Just stand firm in knowing who you are and that justice will prevail. I can remain positive and rest my head at night knowing I did the best I could while being the most respectful, compassionate and understanding version of myself. To remember and never lose sight that we must treat people the way we wish to be treated. You will never find the rainbow without a little rain first. I am surrounded by amazing people, clients, co-workers and even people of no relation who are like family to me. Staying positive and appreciating all the people in my life who have done right by me really helps to ease the stress of those who wish to bring us nothing but pain. #StayStrong #StayPositive